Yeah that prick is in my life as well people! Although anxiety is not as needy as depression is, sometimes the two get together and have epic parties, I'm talking about cocaine drenched start in Jersey and end up in Bangkok wearing manic makeup with a full length sleeve tattoo kind of parties.
While the two are having the time of their lives I 'm usually curled up in bed with no energy or motivation to do anything and a racing anxiety filled heart with all of my responsibilities running through my head, sounds like a ton of fun huh?!
If you raised your hand to the picture at the top of the page then you already know what I am talking about and as I have mentioned before, you are not alone! Anxiety likes to show up unannounced which can be really freaking frustrating. I can be having an awesome day and then bam! with no rhyme or reason this jerk shows up wanting to have some fun.
Seriously though, there are times when I can clearly identify the trigger to my anxiety, but there are other times when I cannot think of one damn reason why I feel a knot in the pit of my stomach and my heart begins to race. These are the really frustrating episodes because in my mind there is no rationale for the event.
Now just like with our friend depression let's take a look at exactly how present Anxiety is in America.
According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America
- Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 or older or 18.1% of the population every year
And according to the National Institute of Mental Health
- An estimated 19.1% of U.S. adults had any anxiety disorder in the past year
So you see, there are a lot of people going through it with us! Now when this bad boy shows up what exactly do I do about it? There are a number of things that I have found have been helpful for me.
- Deep breathing...I know total cliche! But hey that shit works man, of course I had to learn that deep breathing does not take the anxiety away (now that I think about it none of the coping skills that I use get rid of anxiety) it serves to reduce the intensity of the anxiety that I am feeling in the moment. So I breathe, I breathe deep and will usually count down from ten about three or four times
- This also allows me to pause and remind myself that I am in a safe space and that what I am experiencing is a temporary symptom that will fade away.
- Meditation...again cliché I know but this has been extremely helpful for me. Of course there is something really Zen about shutting out the external world and being in a peaceful space with yourself, but honestly there is also something very spiritual about it for me. When I meditate I know that I am making a connection with a higher power. Of course I am by no means preaching here and suggesting that meditation should manifest the exact same way in your life, but I am sure that it can be very helpful to you.
- Exercise...Ok once I decide to get my lazy ass off the freaking couch I discovered the beauty of exercising. So yeah...all that stuff they say about exercise increasing energy and pheromones and well you just generally being good for you...well it's true people! Once you get those shoes on and get in a work out you will walk away saying why didn't I do this before??? But you gotta get up and get out first!!
- Writing...I definitely have a creative streak in me and when I nurture that streak the world around me dissipates and I am left in divine space creating poems and stories. It really becomes a mindful activity and a fulfilling one for me.
I know that there is science behind all of the things that help me get through an anxiety or depression episode, but I am not going to cite them here at all...why?? Because honestly I did not sit down and research peer reviewed articles and mountains of scientific data to determine what I would do about it. These were things that were already in the ether and I utilized trial and error to see what worked best for me. So get up and get to work!
Put your shoes on and go for a walk, write a poem, read a book, go for a jog, cook a meal, watch a funny movie, get to a church, go out with a close friend, give yourself an affirmation and say it every day, and the list goes on and on and on...just get up and do SOMETHING and remember that you deserve all of the wonderful things that life has to offer...yes YOU!!
So once again my friends I am here to tell you that you are not alone, and I am also here to tell you that there are tangible things that you can do to get yourself out of the funk that you are in!
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO WORK YOURSELF OUT OF DARK SPACES AND INTO BEAUTIFUL SPACES FILLED WITH LOVE AND LIGHT
This is coming from a regular Joe that knows and understands what you are going through my friends.
The time has come once again to bid you all adieu my friends, as always, remember that there are millions in the ring fighting this good fight and hope springs eternal in each of our hearts!!!